So with no further ado, here’s the list: #1 He comes up to you.
Whether in a bar, club, café, in a crowd, or in the office, a guy who likes you will find a way to approach you and get closer to you.
I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.
We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.
If you are planning a retirement party for someone else, take the time to understand her preferences. Sing some of your old favorite songs for a trip down memory lane and enjoy each other’s company and musical tastes.
What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
One year later back in the States (we live in the same city) I was unknowingly talking to him over the phone just messing around (his cousin was dating my friend and his cousin gave the phone to him).
He said he remembered me, told me to come over, so I did.
Mixed signals like this are a sign that he’s trying to hide an attraction.