And then you date the next man and bring him by, and before you know it, it can seem like “revolving door dads” to your kids, who may feel abandoned or confused.
It’s understandable that you want a responsible male in your children’s lives, but be careful that you don’t do it too soon.
When and how do you introduce the person you’re dating to your children? Phil offers advice: You have to be extremely careful about two things: 1) Allowing your kids to meet the new person in your life.
2) Allowing your kids to bond with that person unless and until you know or can predict with fair confidence that this is going to be a long-term relationship.
If you are a divorced, single mom, you’ve had to heal from the pain of your divorce plus take on the responsibility of doing the majority of the childcare.
Their fantasies of reconciliation will be damaged, and the loss of your attention can reawaken fears of abandonment.
Dating after a divorce can be a tricky thing if you have children.
Even if both parents are doing a good job of maintaining a relationship with their children, divorce is a disruption.
Beware of letting yourself think that finding a new spouse will make your family “whole” again.
Remarriage based on that agenda often has more “holes” than “wholes.” Keep in mind that children typically accept dad’s dating more than mom’s dating.
A child’s usual reaction to mom or dad’s first date is a negative one.