He doesn't want to tell the child's mother, because it might put her in a bad mood, and he's "tired of that." He feels that it could affect the relationship that he has with his child. You say that you want him to have a "good relationship," but that has to be wanted by this mother too. I think that you might be rushing marriage with him.
I am torn because I want him to have a good relationship with both of his children, and their mothers, but I don't want her to control his life and emotions like she does. If you marry him while this is still happening, then he may not see a reason to change anything now that you two have married. First of all, he absolutely cannot privilege his ex-wife over you if you want to have a successful marriage, and it looks like he does just that at least some of the time.
I was annoyed to the point of excusing myself and going home, because this guy was too far gone into his rant and booze to make it worth it for me to interact with him.
He kept ranting on and on about how unfair it was, how women were privileged and spoiled, and nagged at my ear until I couldn’t take it anymore.
In the age of Play Station 3s, 24-hours-a-day sports channels, and free Internet porn, you are now obsolete.
All that nagging, whining, and stealing our hard earned cash have finally caught up to you."Oh, snap!
When I was in my early 20’s, dateless and going through life alone, I also felt bitter and resentful towards women.
However, any interaction with her, and it seems that he turns into a different person. We are in the process of telling people about our upcoming marriage. It sounds like she controls him if it has been going on for about a year. What he should be worried about is that it might upset you if he doesn't tell her, because you should be the most important woman in his life, not her.
Second, the ex has not yet learned how to cope with you and your boyfriend's relationship if you think she might be upset about the news of your engagement.
Third, with children involved, you can never be too careful.
" She recently broke it down for us on The Daily Beast…She says women are making guys bitter for a few main reasons.
They are: Many women want to be equal in the boardroom and on the treadmill, but when it comes to dating, they want to date (or they want the option to date) old-fashioned gentlemen who will open doors and pay for dinner. I think we're all confused about what we think our roles are and what we want from the opposite sex.
Hymowitz believes that bitter comments like this come from a combo of immaturity, the Internet as "an escape valve for decades of pent-up rebellion against political correctness," and "good, old-fashioned misogyny."__Are you meeting guys who are bitter?