Dating a deaf girl


I’m lucky I found someone early in my life so I didn’t have to deal with the stressful dating game for long.

Deaf people — at least in my case — who live outside of the Deaf culture feel insecure when it comes to the dating game.

For example, I recall a woman who is an interpreter and a CODA (hearing child of Deaf adults) who married a Hearing man tell about a situation where she asked her husband about his opinion on something she wanted to do around the house, and he shrugged in response. It turned out that while to him, that shrug meant he really had no opinion one way or another, for her, the particular way he had shrugged meant he basically couldn't give a flying rat's ass about the whole thing.

Note this was an intercultural conflict between two otherwise "Hearing" people.

Now I am ready to date and trying to meet men on line, and chatting with them seems to go well; but as soon as I let them know that I am deaf they have stopped talking to me as if I had leprosy or something.You have to learn their signs before being in a position to communicate with them.This will also give better ways to and unfortunately, the guy did not know either to write or communicate well.Deaf culture values different things than Hearing (American) culture does -- communication and sharing information, eye contact, collectiveness of community, and more.Even simple facial expressions or gestures can hold different meanings for Deaf and Hearing people.The difficulties boil down to a few major areas: cultural difference, communication difference, and power dynamics.

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