She told him to stop seeing the other counselor and find another one who knows about me too.He is having a very hard time to break it to his wife that he just wants out.And when that happens, it’s anything but smooth, simple, and unemotional. That’s wear and tear on your relationship that would never have happened if Ben had wrapped up his divorce before you two started dating.Even if that doesn’t happen, a divorce, no matter how civil, is nobody’s idea of a good time. So, yes, in a perfect world, people would conclude their previous relationships, paperwork and all, before entering into new ones.I’ve recently met someone and we’ve fallen pretty hard for each other. Plus, she’s totally hung up on the fact that he said he was divorced on OKCupid. For reasons more pragmatic than principled, I am opposed to people dating before they are divorced. We both have two kids in middle school: a girl and a boy. So, for all intents and purposes, it's like they're divorced, they just haven't done the paperwork. She says dating him is wrong because he’s still a married man. Dear In Love, I realize this happens all the time, but I think misrepresenting one’s marital status on a dating site raises legitimate questions about a person’s veracity. The bigger issue here is not that Ben said he was divorced on OKCupid, it’s that he is in fact still married.
He doesn’t want to be confrontational and doesn’t want to hurt her.A long-term relationship may feel boring and stale in comparison.Even if you or your married lover has no plans of getting a divorce, the excitement of a new relationship may prove too hard to resist. I would probably have not gone into this if I didn’t know he would be leaving his wife.He told her that he is not happy and things have to change by August. They went to see a marriage councilor, who was pretty helpful for them, but of course my man still wants out. I just want her to understand that people change over years, and that their marriage is over.Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.