Try to be open to discussing it, rather than lecturing them.
You want them to listen to your opinion, yet at the same time feel they are making up their own mind.
Teens also learn how to be both assertive and compromising, how to be giving to another and how to expect the same in return. Show them how you compromise, stick up for yourself, give and expect respect and argue but love your spouse. Tell girls that they do not need to have sex to keep a guy. Many kids are having these forms of sex because they tell themselves it’s not really sex. Then tell them about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases.
All of this is a sort of practice session in order to find “Mr.” or “Miss Right.” Unfortunately, too often teens start dating with no preparatory talks from their parents and then they can get into trouble. You hope they will wait to have sex, but if they don’t, it’s best that they protect themselves.
While setting rules is a good idea, it is important for parents to think through the rules that they do set.Notice what "dating" seems to mean to your child and then talk about it.Michelle Anthony, Ph D, a developmental psychologist and learning therapist in Denver, suggests an opening line like: “It sounds like a lot of kids are talking about dating now. ” If you can't tell what dating means to your kid, try discussing dating as shown on TV shows or in movies that are age-appropriate.Parents need to know why they are setting the rules, and they also need to discuss the rules openly with their children.Here are some of the most common dating rules and how they can be used most effectively to guide teens through the world of dating: Pros: You can set an age where most teens have a good maturity level and are able to think independently.Tell your teen that you will talk about dating when he or she is ____ years old.