While I do not believe that this is a ‘scriptural’ consideration, I think that those involved should move slowly as they discover the answer for their relationship.
Stepparents can make an awesome difference in the lives of children I must confess upfront that I am biased on this topic from my own positive experience.
We make a beautiful family, and we love each other. Because while dating someone with kids can be amazing in so many ways, don’t ever think it’ll be easy. You wanted to get away for the weekend but you forgot it’s over Mother’s Day because, newsflash, you’re not a mom?
But don’t be misled: this is the most challenging thing I have ever done. You should know a few things before you flail carelessly into infatuation like that basejumper guy in the squirrel suit with that awesome song. A parent’s responsibility is to their kids first, always, and that will never change. Be aware your plans will always need to be flexible.
If there’s a crisis with your lover’s ex and the kids need to come over, or little Johnny has a hockey game, your plans will need to take a backseat.
This can work in your favor, however, if you’re the kind of person who enjoys alone time or can easily free-flow with your plans.
I’d never considered that, one day, I would take on someone else’s child.
I’ve asked and been asked all of these questions in the past, and wanted to provide some of my own thoughts about dating single parents.
Your kids will always come first so there is no point wasting your time with someone who does not understand that.
Some guys are put off dating single moms because they do not want the responsibility of looking after someone else’s children.
However, they may not realize that there are lots of great reasons to date single moms – not least the level of emotional maturity they may have.
Perhaps you’ve got a demanding job/yoga schedule/pet and maybe your childfree adventures allow you to keep busy—you’re golden.