“I don’t love you anymore.” “I never liked you like that. Increasingly, in fact, we’re carrying out our most intimate conversations via carefully edited, asynchronous texts.The majority of Textie’s submissions have to do with love and sex, particularly during those awkward pre- and post-dating periods when there’s no clear texting etiquette.
Technology that once supplemented relationship development is now, it seems, taking on a larger role in relationship formation and maintenance.People met, they spent time in each other’s company, they got to know each other's friends and family, and they evaluated the quality of their connection and compatibility .Sure, they talked on the phone or maybe sent the occasional letter, but the core of their relationship centered on face-to-face interactions.The rules that govern calculated texting (to prove that you're busy, cool, whatever...) also require a concerted effort to masquerade said calculations. And using them, I've found, is like bringing a gun to a knife fight your opponent doesn't even know they are involved in.Yes, it's complicated, which is why it is important to come prepared with the most incendiary weapon: read receipts. For the uninitiated, here's how it works: Once enabled, the read receipt will notify the person who has texted you that you have read his or her text. A few weeks ago, around p.m., my then boyfriend—with whom I was fighting—sent me a text asking what I was doing.In my experience treating couples and individuals, many hope that if they "play the game" correctly, their prince or princess will be the prize.