Become that person and you’ll attract that person as well. Lasting love is real, but it takes a real self-aware person to be a worthy partner.A magazine article in 2013 debuted the self-described "Senior Washed-Up Girls" of Yale: "Women who don't bother dressing up for class, or even for fancy parties (though they might still attend them), don't seek out meaningful (or even just sexual) relationships, spend weekends at their shared homes drinking in the company of other self-identified SWUGs, and feel utter apathy about their personal lives—all at the age of 21."'s glasses-wearing, Gruyere-binging Liz Lemon. Today, it's not uncommon for a 23-year-old girl to begin a tweet with "#You Know You're Old When." I, a 28-year-old, naturally roll my eyes at that—conveniently forgetting that when I reference my own old age in a similar way, a 32-year-old would roll her eyes at, and a 45-year-old would at her, and so on. Staying out late on weeknights when I had work the next day.
And let’s be honest – can you really completely give up hope on finding that special chemistry? My new book builds on this concept and gives you a step-by-step blueprint to flipping the script from negative to positive, and turning the glass from half-empty to half-full.Every now and then I meet a guy or a woman who says that they are ready to completely give up on dating and relationships, and that meeting people and going out on dates is simply not worth the effort.Surely, if you lost someone you were really in love with, even one break up can feel like life has betrayed you and there is no point in trying to meet someone special again, as it will lead to terrible pain again.It is particularly easy to get discouraged if you are being dumped time after time, and if you are feeling like you are wasting time when you invest effort and emotion into one person after another, but it does not lead to a a meaningful connection and a committed relationship.I realized that, at best, I didn't remember most of the names of the guys I did this for, because they were mostly two-date randoms.