These are questions that you need to ask within the first 40 days of dating.
You must ask your person of interest these question before entering into a courtship with them.
But although I feel a passive acceptance of my lot as a “sinner”, I do know many whose situation is so unfair, I want to lob those hand grenades myself.
How can my Church bar Suzanne, a friend whose husband spent the nights at his laptop, gambling away the family’s income?
I noticed some profiles are divorced yet they say they can marry in the church. Also, should I date a divorced woman if they are not seeking or they don’t have an annulment? Signed, Wondering Dear Michele, Why is such site as Catholic Singles allowing people who are currently separated to look for a dates? Dear Wondering and What’s Up, Many Catholics are just as confused about the Church’s teaching on marriage and divorce as non-Catholics.
You would think that people would wait for ink is dry on their divorce paper before they start looking for new relationship! One reason is that we sometimes get our information from sources that don’t understand the process.
We may rarely hear the specifics from the pulpit, especially if we haven’t been through the process ourselves.
There are a few ways a person may be “divorced” but free to marry.
Yes, the Church is and should be pro-marriage, but, like its Lord, it must also love and support those whose marriages have failed. As the survivor of divorce after 30 years of marriage, I know there needs to be a healthier dialogue within the Catholic Church between those who have never divorced (including our clergy) and those who have. The divorce rate is anywhere from 50 percent for first marriages to 80 percent for subsequent marriages.Perhaps, as a result, more and more couples are choosing to live together without bothering to get married. Cardinal Vincent Nichols, leader of Britain’s 4.5 million Catholics, is making noises about how his Church of “sinners” should show “mercy” to divorcees.He says there may have to be a “radical rethink” on the issue.The person she was married to and then divorced may have since (after the divorce) passed away.