I've been divorced for three years and have two boys ages 5 and 9.
After a bad one-year on/off relationship, I've been pushing men away. I feel guilty for even considering a new relationship because my kids don't want me to date at all.
Involving your kids too early in a new relationship may cause them further trauma if your new relationship falls apart.
The last thing they need is to be exposed to another disintegrating relationship.
What makes a person ready for a new relationship is examining and accepting his or her role in the liaison that went bad; it really does take two.
I don't get out much, but I would like to feel willing to accept a new opportunity if it presented itself. Start by pulling yourself together and managing your conflicted feelings.It's possible that they'll become upset, but if that's the case, then having the conversation with them is even more important than it would have been if they'd been 100% supportive.So don't let fear stop you from initiating the conversation with your kids. Some divorced parents introduce their kids to all of their friends, without going into detail about the relationship.Despite only seeing single mothers portrayed on TV and in movies as frumpy, over-worked women only a deeply kind, "good" person could find hot and appealing, I was totally surprised (and thrilled) when I realized that just because I was a single mom didn't make me any less desirable.In fact, it made me more appealing to the right kinds of partners.Dating after divorce is complicated, especially for parents whose children still live at home.